keeping the relationship alive..

salaam.. :)

i know i have no experience in  married life..
but i have been observing many couples, mostly from my own family..
and when i observe, i tend to take lessons from it..
with hopes that when i get married, i won't do the same mistakes or i'll put in my head the ways of keeping the relationship alive and well.. ;)

heyyy.. don't corrupt your mind by thinking that i'm talking about sex..
yeahh i assume it's a big part of a married couple's life..
but a wise bird once said to me that communiction outside the bedroom is what determines the satisfactions in thw bedroom..
in other words, great sex doesn't ensure good relationships but great relationships could lead to great sex..

andd.... marriage isn't all about sex..
it's all about communication..
a cousin of mine has a great ability of relating with everyone and for sure her husband..
she communicates well by stating whatever that is wrong in someone in a well mannered way and complimenting whenever that person has made it right..

admit it.. not everyone's advice or comment about you can be accepted.. especially if he/she gave it to you in a hard way..
and for sure you could accept complimenta and would most likely repeat the thing that u did..

lately i've been wondering..
how those married couple can live for years together..
especially the old ones who have been living together all of their lives..
then i see my cousin who could smile as if they're still dating when he sees his wife.. whereas they have been married for almost 19years..

well..
like every other thing..
not everyone's love story has a happy ending..
it's sad seeing those who u have known even before they were married and find out one day that they are now divorced..
but He has His plans..

eventhough i dont have a clue how my love life is going to end, no matter how it is, i always remind myself that it's the best for me..
i'll always try to keep the relationship alive in any way i can..
but at the end of the day, i have to let the Big Boss run His plans.. :)